Here is one of the most hard human challenges - how to hold
space for the other (and why..)?
Sometimes it is so contradicted to my instincts - because
here it is not comfortable, and there it is so hard, and there it is so
exhausting, and here it is so - really! - against my
opinions.. And it is most difficult when I feel I am hurt, really hurt.
And it is not about self-"deleting" - otherwise,
then, who is the holder, if her/him does not exist?
So, how do we hold both? my-self and the other`s self?
The article here in the link - https://www.facebook.com/upliftconnect/videos/839188052884844/ - asks to give some important
And still, applying them takes time.
But life itself takes time.. :-) We develop in time, we move in it, we
grow and get mature in time, and we study in time. So any application of
different things takes time. it is nothing but an
eternal process. So, it is totally ok.. :-)
The simple - and sometimes, the obvious -
acknowledgement that there is something common in all of us, humans, helps me,
each time a bit more.
Again and again I realize that humans have
dreams (different and similar), pains (different and similar), faces (different
and similar), bodies (different and similar), affections (similar, for example,
towards children, and different), etc .....
And I do not go immediately to apply it on
extreme and difficult cases, such as we hear on the news. I start from what is
close to me in daily life.
And from time to time I also try to remember
that there are so many things that I still don`t know...certainly not for
somebody else. I can just offer, not more than that.
I try to remember what combines, not what
I forget that and then ask to remember again.
It is thinking-activity - to be active in that
as much as possible. And somehow, in hidden way, it also brings peace... :-)