By Yifat Aharon
In ancient times spirituality was a
path for unique people only. Those who had chosen that path – or were chosen by
others - were searchers that had to go through a deep and very inconvenient,
long and even very scary initiation, being guided by an experienced teacher.
Spirituality was about experiencing the supersensible, meaning: the gates to higher worlds that exist beyond
the familiar earthly senses.
Things have developed, moved, materialized
and changed. Spirituality became a field that can be explored by every individual
and not only by unique people, if she or he wishes to do that. But In this
process the concept "spirituality" has gotten various approaches
and "interpretations": Not necessarily anymore a deep and totally
unknown process of initiation, an encounter with the non-physic level, but a
way to enlarge and increase good feelings and emotions, which the common base
of them is usually "Love".
So, has "Love" also become
a concept rather than essence of a deep connection?
One`s life brings different events –
smaller or larger – that encounter him with pain, anger, insult, humiliation,
and especially fear; the uncertainty – which is the basic nature of life -
brings anxieties and many unsolved
questions. So it is only natural that we will seek for certainty, for answers
and pleasant feelings, mainly love. Of course, we all want to be loved and to
The danger in this process is to
hold "love" as a "magic" and easy "solution" for all
the unpleasant situations and feelings mentioned above. It happens, it happens
a lot, and it happens totally unconsciously. "I love you" became easy
Does it really mean "love"? Why are we all looking for a "true"
love? Doesn't it mean that there is a "false love"?
As life teaches, (true) love is
something to work very hard for and to build, usually through the encounter
with pain; pain is the best way to awaken human consciousness, as if it sounds
an alarm to awake us from our deep sleep and forces us to get up for work – not
work in the office, but our inner work.. J
As I experience it, love is not automatic.
And it is much more than a "regular" emotion of the emotional level;
love is a choice, a choice that comes from the conscious level, and it means
that I also have the choice not to love. In other words: The freedom to love.
In order to choose love, not
only to increase pleasure in one`s life to "feel good", one has to
decide to open oneself. One needs to listen, to widen oneself far beyond
everything he knows, let one`s thinking
to dis-cover for him a new reality; exactly like they did in ancient times -
when they were willing to go through the initiation process and meet the
supersensible - but up-to-date...!
It means, for me, to be willing to
go also through the unpleasant experiences that I have – meeting myself, but
especially while meeting the other – and actually work there and establish
love, even with my closest people.
To love is to make an effort,
to seek for positivity when one is in criticism, to make the
transformation from the inner power of separation – and that can happen only
if I choose and decide to do so actively.
George Ritchie, in his book
"Return from tomorrow", describes – after his NDE
(near death experience) - his meeting with Bill Cody, a holocaust survivor who
lost all his family, that told him he had chosen love rather hate; I believe it
was a conscious decision out of an active consciousness.
In order to implement a free
choice of love one must also acknowledge the option of not loving, taking
into account the result of what he chooses, after asking oneself honestly
where his thinking- heart leads him to.
In other words, a possible
"understanding" of the essence named "Spirituality", or
"Love", is the expression of an active moving consciousness of the
human being; it is an activity in the level of pure and free non- materialized